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Monday 27 January 2014

Essentials Ways On How To Deal With Bullying

By Nelda Powers


Bullying is a problem that most of us have had to deal with in one part of our lives or the other. For a good number of people, it is a constant problem that they have to face every day. Bullying can be defined as the repeated act of aggressive behaviour to dominate others. It can be in form of mockery, threats, abuse and coercion towards particular targets. It has been linked to variation in gender, physique, class, religion; race, just to name a few. Bullying is one of the factors contributing to increased suicide cases especially among teens. As a result, various movements and laws have been created on how to deal with bullying.

There are three basic types of abuse as regards this vice. These are emotional, physical and verbal abuse. Within the three categories, there exists physical violence, insults, coercion and intimidation. There is some differences in the manner in which abuse is perpetrated in the female and the male genders. This behaviour in females is associated with emotional abuse while male tend to be more physically aggressive. In isolated cases, both sexes may choose mockery such as when the victim looks more masculine or when both parties are adults who do not want to be considered immature.

The act of bullying that can be used is that of direct and indirect. The former type involves the use of force against the individual. It includes forces such as pulling, kicking, biting, shoving and pushing. The indirect type, on the other hand, is mainly characterised by social aggression whose main objective is to isolate the victim. Negative publicity is a major tool used here.

What exactly is the motive behind this kind of aggressive behaviour? Studies indicate that most bullies are weak at heart and would rather disguise their weakness by forcing it on others. Such people lack self esteem or may have been gone through the same a similar experience at some point in their life. Others learn this act from people that are close to them.

Some perpetrators suffer personality disorders. Bullies can be highly temperamental, obsessive or excessively concerned about self image. Their chances of performing well in school are usually low, despite the fact they enjoy attending school. They like to be regarded with fear and respect as well as being at the centre of a social group.

Victims usually end up feeling depressed, lonely and unwanted. There self esteem is greatly lowered and gradually lose interest in life. In the long run, it can lead to post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Victims accumulate bitterness and hatred that may in future may present violently. The good side of bullying can be where victims are able to stand up for themselves and gain the respect of the people around.

Parents, teachers and guardians are encouraged to attend anti bullying training programs to be help children cope. Schools can also come up with policies and peer counseling sessions. The state can actively participate by instituting laws against such behaviour.

Targets can be able to deal with bullying by being on the defensive rather than feeling inferior. This can only be possible when one puts on a positive attitude towards the situation. Bullies prefer weak people and can only retreat when they have been confidently challenged.




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