Are you frustrated with your attempts to try to get back together with your ex? Do well meaning conversations turn into battles where you are constantly trying to defend yourself? Are your words and actions taken out of context by your ex and used against you?
Are you trying to repair your relationship and get back together but he refuses to listen to anything that you have to say? What can you do to make him listen to reason and make him see that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him?
Sometimes, trying to get back together with your ex is like trying to herd cats. No matter how hard you try and how well meaning your intentions might be, your ex goes in a different direction and they simply don't see the big picture. No matter what tactic you try, conversations and meanings become weapons used against you. There is a reason behind this and there is something that you can do to turn things around.
Now, what would you do if you saw a little boy that was throwing a fit? What would be most effective in circumventing that behavior? Punishing him or giving him a stern talking to rarely works. This will only make him more angry and beligerent. Rewarding bad behavior or giving him some sort of a treat won't be apprecaited so being nice to him isn't going to work. Even acknowledging his poor behavior only reinforces that behavior.
Likewise, with your ex-girlfriend, the best thing that you can do is to be calm, be quiet and let her come to you. She will become interested, like a cat. If there is something going on in your life, she will want to know what you're doing or what you're playing with. Once you stop chasing her, she will stop running away from you. The flight instinct will no longer be in effect. She might sit for a little while to be sure that you're not going to chase her again and then she will become interested in what you're doing.
It is only once your ex has a desire or even an inkling of a desire to spend time with you and talk with you that things will begin to change. Creating that desire is rather simple. You have a history and many happy memories that you can use as a tool to reignite that passion, desire and romance. Of course, simply throwing a bunch of picture of the two of you together in their face isn't going to get you that desire. Remember that right now your ex is only thinking that you're trying to manipulate them. This is why it is necessary to allow your ex to cool off a bit. Give them some time. Allow a short amount of time to pass and heal those open wounds.
Take advantage of this time apart and while you're waiting for time to do its healing thing, begin to create a life that will be attractive to your ex. Start doing things that you think that your ex might want to do. Even little things like going somewhere during the weekend or making some changes to your house are enough to get their interest. Start working out or studying something new.
Even though this is only a rough outline of a succcessful plan to get your ex boyfriend back, understanding male psychology and using it to change his mind is the only way to go. Talking about the problems in the relationship rarely works and those methods will never change his mind. Only by creating a life that he would want to be part of will change his heart and make him fall in love with you again. Try it and see what kind of results you get. Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn't have to be difficult.
Are you trying to repair your relationship and get back together but he refuses to listen to anything that you have to say? What can you do to make him listen to reason and make him see that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him?
Sometimes, trying to get back together with your ex is like trying to herd cats. No matter how hard you try and how well meaning your intentions might be, your ex goes in a different direction and they simply don't see the big picture. No matter what tactic you try, conversations and meanings become weapons used against you. There is a reason behind this and there is something that you can do to turn things around.
Now, what would you do if you saw a little boy that was throwing a fit? What would be most effective in circumventing that behavior? Punishing him or giving him a stern talking to rarely works. This will only make him more angry and beligerent. Rewarding bad behavior or giving him some sort of a treat won't be apprecaited so being nice to him isn't going to work. Even acknowledging his poor behavior only reinforces that behavior.
Likewise, with your ex-girlfriend, the best thing that you can do is to be calm, be quiet and let her come to you. She will become interested, like a cat. If there is something going on in your life, she will want to know what you're doing or what you're playing with. Once you stop chasing her, she will stop running away from you. The flight instinct will no longer be in effect. She might sit for a little while to be sure that you're not going to chase her again and then she will become interested in what you're doing.
It is only once your ex has a desire or even an inkling of a desire to spend time with you and talk with you that things will begin to change. Creating that desire is rather simple. You have a history and many happy memories that you can use as a tool to reignite that passion, desire and romance. Of course, simply throwing a bunch of picture of the two of you together in their face isn't going to get you that desire. Remember that right now your ex is only thinking that you're trying to manipulate them. This is why it is necessary to allow your ex to cool off a bit. Give them some time. Allow a short amount of time to pass and heal those open wounds.
Take advantage of this time apart and while you're waiting for time to do its healing thing, begin to create a life that will be attractive to your ex. Start doing things that you think that your ex might want to do. Even little things like going somewhere during the weekend or making some changes to your house are enough to get their interest. Start working out or studying something new.
Even though this is only a rough outline of a succcessful plan to get your ex boyfriend back, understanding male psychology and using it to change his mind is the only way to go. Talking about the problems in the relationship rarely works and those methods will never change his mind. Only by creating a life that he would want to be part of will change his heart and make him fall in love with you again. Try it and see what kind of results you get. Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn't have to be difficult.
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