The Initial Approach is probably the most difficult and arguably the most important part of interacting with a new woman. The way you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a fat rejection. So if you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women successfully.
The first thing you need to do if you want to approach women properly is to work on your appearance, work on your self-confidence, manage your approach anxiety, and afterwards learn how you can successfully open women. The opening is not actually too complex nor is it difficult to pull off. There is essentially only two primary things you have to be concerned about. It's just that you need to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say.
An attractive woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice phone." kind of dull drivel. You have to distance yourself from the 1000's of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Considering that you're about to vomit just overcoming approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is wise to have a couple of canned openers that has actually been repeatedly tested with girls and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and totally desperate, so keep away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that most women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation.
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7 % is actual words. This implies that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will create a more friendly atmosphere. Also, keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up attraction, comfort, and trust.
Project negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Turn your body towards her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon solid attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you are revealing you do not need her attention or approval and you demonstrate high value by not coming off as needy or desperate.
At the same time you will have to display self-confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't understand how you can show confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it. From here you can:
Throw in some time constraint techniques such as, "I've only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, but I have to say..." or "One more thing before I go..." and grab their number.
Move into A2 stage which is where you hook them by flaunting your high value with such things as stories, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the discussion, etc.
The first thing you need to do if you want to approach women properly is to work on your appearance, work on your self-confidence, manage your approach anxiety, and afterwards learn how you can successfully open women. The opening is not actually too complex nor is it difficult to pull off. There is essentially only two primary things you have to be concerned about. It's just that you need to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say.
An attractive woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice phone." kind of dull drivel. You have to distance yourself from the 1000's of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Considering that you're about to vomit just overcoming approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is wise to have a couple of canned openers that has actually been repeatedly tested with girls and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and totally desperate, so keep away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that most women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation.
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7 % is actual words. This implies that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will create a more friendly atmosphere. Also, keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up attraction, comfort, and trust.
Project negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Turn your body towards her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon solid attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you are revealing you do not need her attention or approval and you demonstrate high value by not coming off as needy or desperate.
At the same time you will have to display self-confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't understand how you can show confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it. From here you can:
Throw in some time constraint techniques such as, "I've only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, but I have to say..." or "One more thing before I go..." and grab their number.
Move into A2 stage which is where you hook them by flaunting your high value with such things as stories, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the discussion, etc.
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