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Monday, 9 December 2013

Cultivating Patience When You Are Still In Love With Your Ex

By Jeff Kains


Before you can ever even think of trying to get your ex back you need to end the doubt inside your own mind. Before you can even consider talking to your girlfriend about getting back together or even start spending time with her you need to eliminate the biggest stumbling block that stands in your way of getting her back. That stumbling block is your own doubts and insecurities.

Acceptance that your old relationship is over and looking to the future is the key to your happiness. How do you move on with your life yet remain optimistic that things will work out between you and your ex?

You need to be sure of yourself again before you move forward with your plan to win her over or your body language and tone of voice is going to give away your doubts and turn her off. Having self-confidence and being self-assured is a big part of attracting your girlfriend back. But what can you do to eliminate the doubts and fears? What can you do when you become jealous or feel like quitting?

Realizing how doubtful you are is the first step towards taking care of this problem. Realizing that you have bad thoughts inside your head and that even though you want to be positive and optimistic about everything, you still have doubts in your mind is a good first step.

Instead, remember the fact that your ex was in love with you not too long ago. These feelings and emotions don't just go away. Deep down inside there is a piece of her heart that still beats for you. She might not be in love with how things were going in your relationship but she loved you and she does still love you.

Any time you feel these doubts and anxieties coming to mind when you start to think about getting back together with your ex, look past them and know that in the future things will be different. Your ability to get back together with your girlfriend is all within your hands and the sooner you get your life back together and get back to being the kind of guy that she used to enjoy spending time with, the sooner she'll be back in your life again. Acting crazy and worrying and being depressed isn't going to win her over. Being funny, cool and knowing in your heart that she will fall in love with you again will get her back.

Spend a little time every day daydreaming about what it's going to be like to get her back. Think about how it's going to feel to have her back in your life. How do you want it to happen?

Take some time and grieve. Allow yourself to experience that pain but put a limit on the grieving process. Once you begin to feel better about yourself then you'll know that it's time to get to work. Soon it will be time to focus on yourself, your needs and your life. Once you begin to care for yourself and love yourself, you will find that you become more attractive to other people in your life, including your ex. The faster you get past the grieving process and on to rebuilding your life, the sooner you will find that your ex will come back to you. Remember that it's always when we're busy with other things that wonderful things happen. When you least expect it, your ex will walk right back into your life.




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