Practical Tips to Enhance your Love Life
**Rebuild your love life - Work on yourself first.
The relationship
will follow. Two broken people cannot fix each other. Do something
loving for yourself today, and then come back and do something
loving for your partner.
**Be honest with yourself - Only you can do the work that
you alone need.
Learning to love yourself first
teaches you how to love
others.
Learn to love you. Only then will you have the kind of love your
partner needs. Only then.
**Begin all
over again - Begin with a fresh start.
Remember when you
first met and everything was great? Each of you seemed to know what to
do. The relationship was everything you wanted, right? Become re-acquainted.
Get to know each other all over again. Begin by wooing each
other like you did back then. Think a minute on those special moments. Think about those moments again.
**Resolve now to recreate those good times.
You
can begin your fresh
start in your love life any moment you choose. Forgive yourself for your
mistakes. It's time to move forward and without regrets.
**Establish a love life enhancement goal - What is your relationship goal?
What is most important to you and
to your partner?
Spend
quality time together talking about what is important to both of you. Set
some love life goals. Write them all down on paper. Setting goals
will allow you both to control the direction of change you wish for. To
follow a new path without knowing where it leads is like walking
into a maze.
**Develop a love life sense of humor - Laugh about anything
or nothing at all for 1 minute of each day.
Show
your loved one your lighter
side. Smile and then smile again. It's
very catching.
Cultivate
the positive by only looking at the bright side of things for a
change.
**Claim your bliss - Be happy now!
It's
your choice. Live and love to
your absolute fullest and watch as the sparks start to fly.
**Cultivate togetherness - Plan to spend time together.
The
key now is
to "plan." Stand by what you plan. Keep your commitments to be only with your partner. Work on this together and you will
accomplish much
more.
**Cultivate calm - Don’t let disagreements spoil your love
life.
Freely
offer words such as, "I'm sorry," when needed and then put it behind
you. Don't waste valuable time nursing a quarrel. Someone has to be
first to back down -- might as well be you. Your love life will not
thrive in an atmosphere of discord.
**Don't allow negative behavior to rule your love life - When
the relationship is strained, it can sink very quickly.
Sometimes
you don't do
what your partner wants you to do, so he/she becomes upset and even
distant. Agree to allow each other to make your own choices.
Remember,
women will respond quickest to a man's action or lack of
action.
Men will respond quickest to a woman's attitude.
**Take good care of yourself.
When
you feel tension present in your
love life it is easy to reach for inappropriate food, alcohol or drugs.
This is a big mistake. Resolve to pamper yourself. A healthy mind and
body will translate into a healthy love life.
**Sleep until rested.
You can’t make up for lost sleep.
When you are well
rested you are loving yourself and then you have more to offer
your loved one.
**Give genuine gifts!
- Take the time to pay sincere
gifts of love.
Offer genuine compliments often. Offer generous praise for your partner.
The road to prosperity in your love life will be paved with a
commitment
to generosity towards your partner.
**Feel close to your partner.
We feel closest to those who cause us to feel
good about ourselves. Lavish expressions of love on your partner. Bring them straight from the heart.
**Exercise better choices -
This is a great gift. It
requires that you do not repeat the bad choices you have made in your
love life that have brought you to this point in time. You will get
what you focus on. Look for and see the goodness in your partner. This will spur you on to even better choices.
**Show affection! -
There is great healing in your
power of touch.
Hold hands. Kiss in your car. Give your partner a massage.
Spend
time holding and caressing. Give your partner an extended hug every day; one that lasts several minutes. Purpose to touch each
other
every
day.
**Celebrate your love
life! -Plan for special days in romantic
ways. Make a note of very special
days. The ones that belong just to the two
of you; your first date, when you first made love, when you moved
into your home, the day you got married, the day of the
proposal.
Plan something really special.
**Fun, fun, fun! -
Kick your heels up and play like
a kid again. Tell
your partner you want to enjoy what he or she enjoys and then spend
the entire day together. Make a commitment to do this regularly.
**Dress up and go out on the town. - Go on a date and dress
to the nines!
Make it a special night; even rent
a tuxedo or buy a new dress.
Make advance reservations for a classy restaurant. Delight in
all the
planning.
**Expect the unexpected.
Be spontaneous and
suggest something completely
out of character. Send an intimate greeting card for no reason.
Suddenly stop beside a country road, breath in the fresh air and say,
"I love you!" and then be on your way. If your partner loves sports
on TV, sit alongside and watch the game, too. Let your imagination
have free reign.
**Who said life had to be so serious?
There will be
faux pas and rock and roll! So what?
Better
to just roll with the punches. Poke fun at yourself,
it is very refreshing, but, not at your partner. That's their
own job. Smile all the time.
**Take on “the art of communicating.”
An
entire book could be written
on this subject! Your communication is
the most important aspect
of your love life. Without it, you are
only half a person. We communicate
in all kinds of ways, including verbal and non-verbal.
Just be very open to your partner and
listen. Listening is the
key to
communicating. When you are communicating well you feel
connected. When you feel disconnected you become
distant. Your love life
cannot survive being distant.
**Watch what you say.
Choose the words you speak with
great care.
Words
hastily offered are not easily retrieved.
They become your
reality.
Your love life lives on the tip of your tongue.
**Make an effort each day to tell your partner how much they
mean to you and how much they are appreciated.
Talk
with tenderness. Use terms of
endearment, such as "Honey," "Sweetie," "Baby,"
etc. and be polite,
saying "thank you." Whisper even the simplest of words that reflect
your love and your relationship will grow.
**Nurture your love life with words of affection,
understanding, acceptance and forgiveness.
Nurture
is to nourish, educate, grow or develop;
cultivate.
**Cultivate a healthy love life.
Healthy couples can identify problems
with confidence. They can talk openly
and honestly about their
differences and come to workable solutions. Work on this actively,
or the relationship will evaporate.
**Trusting and Being Trusted.
Be a straight shooter. Trust is the
great equalizer in a good relationship; without it there is no good! A good foundation in a healthy love
relationship is built on trust
and trust must be earned.
Holding
back on the truth about how you feel, only telling part
of the
story, fudging on what your wants and needs are to your partner slowly
erodes the trust in your relationship. Total honesty brings about
awesome trust. Do all that you can to
achieve it!
**Go the extra mile.
Motivate each other to be the best you can be.
Be inventive in coming up with ways to inspire your
love life.
Never
stop. NEVER! Push the romance envelope with a getaway in the
mountains
for a long weekend. Splurge and go all out! Use your imagination.
**Agree to Agree.
It is important to understand that relationships
seldom feel easy; however, a relationship is less of a struggle
when two people agree to do whatever it takes to make it workable.
This does not mean "giving it your best shot and if it doesn't
work, you move on." This means doing whatever it takes!
**Memories last a lifetime - So can your love life.
Create
a love scrapbook.
Stash your memories of special greeting cards, matchbook covers
that remind you of great visits, snapshots, a pressed flower, ticket
stubs, a handwritten love poem, a funny, thoughtful valentine.
Celebrate
spending time together living out a life’s dream. If you have
always wanted to see Whitney Houston in concert, go! Save the
concert tickets and program and frame them as a life long memory the two
of you have shared.
**Spread a little sunshine.
Give each other permission to their own
space. Nothing grows well in the
shade! If you are forever in your
loved one’s pocket, you can stifle the love so freely given. Even love
partners need time alone. You need space. This is another way to love
yourself, first.
**Call the love doctor.
A lack in your love life is nearly always a
symptom of something that needs fixing in the relationship.
Work on
being more attentive, thoughtful and creative in expression of your
love and your love life with come alive again.
**Go on a date with your partner. Even relationships that are old-hat need new juice!
Once every week plan to
spend some quality date
time together. Enlist a trusted friend to stay the night with your
kids and head for the “ten buck a night motel.”
Relive those olden
days when you really lit the fire.
**Practice volume control when talking.
A quiet loving voice is respectful
and will get you more of what you want, more often.
**Push your partner’s hot buttons - Push them spontaneously.
I'm not talking about the ones you shouldn’t
push. Push the turn-on buttons. Know what delights and pleases
your partner and push those buttons often.
Pay
special attention to do this. Often a warm and tender hug, a
kiss on
the back of the neck or an unexpected massage is all it takes to get
those home fires burning again.
Remember that your love life is something that needs to
be worked on all the time and not only when it is broken and
needs to be fixed.
**Practice Prevention - Don't allow your relationship to
slide into oblivion.
Look at
your love life as an active, breathing thing.
Life
needs to be refueled and taken care of.
Look at the many ways you can
actively prevent your love life from sizzling out.
**Learn to love more, smarter.
You can acquire a healthier and stronger
love life when you are learning more about what makes them so. Visit quality relationship sites on the
Internet. Develop a desire
to read. Join a book club and read together. Subscribe to relationship
ezines. Attend relationship seminars. Get love life coaching.
You can never be too smart about loving relationships.
**Priorities, priorities.
Abandon the idea once and for all that your
life is your work. Don’t confuse your
career with your life. The same is
true of your relationship! Relationship must always come first,
then your career.
Put even
a few of these love life enhancers into practice and a
more
healthy love relationship will be your reward.
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