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Tuesday 6 October 2015

Understanding The True Lover Tests

By Sharon Weeks


We have all been in those situations where we feel an unexplainable feeling of excitement and euphoria. This feeling occurs especially when one meets or talks to that wonderful person that you have always longed for his or her attention. One may think that he or she is falling in love but you really have to question yourself whether it is truly love. The true lover tests will help you know whether whatever you are experiencing is really love or just a period of infatuation.

If you believe that infatuation is a love tester, you might be in an awesome relationship but you still fail to feel the love. The skewed expectations might be taking a rich, warm and deeper relationship from you. To add on, lack of knowing the difference between infatuation and love may lead you to unintentionally connecting to a person never to be your spouse and still conclude naively that you have found love.

To understand whether what you are feeling is love or not, consider the long term expectations of that feeling. A number of theories show true love to contain passion, intimacy and commitment. Not balancing these three can end up straining the relationship. People who are fond of each other but fall short on intimacy may not be able to live long in their relationship.

The test of time. True love grows with time while infatuation diminishes as time goes by. Get to know how hurriedly you start labeling certain feelings as love, realize if you have other words you use to describe such feelings. Supposing you find yourself falling in love every now and then and very early, and later you get disappointed, then keeping this test in mind will save your from a future heartache.

In the internet tests have been developed. Questions are set with limited choices to pick as answer. Once one takes that test, results are analyzed online and displayed on the screen. Even though the accuracy of this method may be questioned, it gives time for a partner to reflect. When replying to these set questions one makes an independent analysis this may be helpful in deciding whether you love her or you do not.

Test of distance. Genuine love knows how important distance is. On the other hand, infatuation only imagines that love is meant to be intense closeness all the time. If circumstances put it that you have to be temporarily separated from your other half, that will definitely teach you more on the quality of your relationship. Supposing you fail to feel a sense of separateness, distinct life, healthy balance and relationship with other persons, then you are more infatuated than in love.

Test of stability. True love will endure all obstacles. Infatuation may change all over sudden and unpredictably. When you are infatuated, the wind blows and one just falls in love. True love does not happen this way, it is more stable and there is commitment. Stability test is quite hard to apply to a relationship that is measured in only some few days or weeks.

Clear understanding of own personality is the first step towards attainment of true love. An individual should clearly know his areas of interest and what he does not like. A point to remember that the person you love will be your lifetime partner. One should therefore be certain of what he or she is doing.




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