For the initial couple of weeks of springtime, I was kicking it in lazy mode. I was really slacking on my fashion and grooming. I figured that I already looked sharp enough to meet my romantic needs. The girls kept coming into my bedroom, so I figured things were cool.
The quantity of ladies I brought back was normal, however, the quality of lady I was taking back was a bit lower than my average. The quantity of initiative I needed to exert was likewise above normal. This drop in efficiency was not exceptionally severe, but noticeably so. Lately, I've redoubled my efforts to look fresh every time I march on the town and the change has actually been equally noticeable. I've been acquiring more eye bangs with more girls and they are much more receptive when I make my move.
Once more, these adjustments to my results weren't planet smashing, however they were very recognizable. I presumed it was merely another application of the "be attractive" adage, but a peculiar theory occurred to me as I was doing some girl spotting with a few buds in the posh Omotesando area.
We were talking about the best ways to distinguish the freaks from the prudes based upon look. Large bracelets and earrings means she's frisky. A t-shirt underneath a camisole means never mind. A deep tan means a easy 'tang. Floppy hat and long sleeves equals pass. Weird fashion plus no make-up indicates Chinese, which equates to garlic breath and a firm no thank you.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
I must note that when I claim that Japanese ladies understand exactly what a high worth Japanese guy looks like, I am referring to know-how on the subconscious level. This is an intuitive procedure, the outcome of a lifetime of monitoring and interaction.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
The quantity of ladies I brought back was normal, however, the quality of lady I was taking back was a bit lower than my average. The quantity of initiative I needed to exert was likewise above normal. This drop in efficiency was not exceptionally severe, but noticeably so. Lately, I've redoubled my efforts to look fresh every time I march on the town and the change has actually been equally noticeable. I've been acquiring more eye bangs with more girls and they are much more receptive when I make my move.
Once more, these adjustments to my results weren't planet smashing, however they were very recognizable. I presumed it was merely another application of the "be attractive" adage, but a peculiar theory occurred to me as I was doing some girl spotting with a few buds in the posh Omotesando area.
We were talking about the best ways to distinguish the freaks from the prudes based upon look. Large bracelets and earrings means she's frisky. A t-shirt underneath a camisole means never mind. A deep tan means a easy 'tang. Floppy hat and long sleeves equals pass. Weird fashion plus no make-up indicates Chinese, which equates to garlic breath and a firm no thank you.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
I must note that when I claim that Japanese ladies understand exactly what a high worth Japanese guy looks like, I am referring to know-how on the subconscious level. This is an intuitive procedure, the outcome of a lifetime of monitoring and interaction.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com
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