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Tuesday, 2 June 2015

Have The Courage To Walk Away

By Evan Sanders


There's this actually fascinating art in walking off from certain people who don't treat you well, respect you enough to reply to you, or simply don't act like you mean much to them. On one hand you would like to be close with as many people as you can and you reach out trying to meets new friends. On the other hand you've got this respect for yourself and pride in how you act. The middle ground is difficult to find sometimes. It is something that I fight with again and again. Really, at what point do you hold your head up high and walk away from the relationship?

I hold myself to a high standard. A great deal of the time I find myself not desiring to do something but doing it anyway because I know the other person truly deserves that. I'm of the opinion that is what I might have needed if the situation was switched around. But I feel lots of the time people don't really do that for me. I don't know if this is just my generation, but it's become more popular for people to just not respond to you, not take seconds out of their day to recognize effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I don't understand what makes people do this. Is it a dearth of respect? Do you simply not like me? Do you simply not care?

As I'm going through life, things seem to become more intensified. I give my heart out to people around me in a unique way that I have never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But simultaneously I have experienced many perspectives that are just the largest turnoffs in general. I try to find that balance between giving people chances, and deciding to walk away. It feels hard to let people go especially when there isn't any massive blowup of any sort.

It seems hard to switch off attempting to bring people joy. Because that's what it actually boils down to for me. I try and bring others as much joy as I can throughout the course of the day. I try to make others laugh. I try and give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that may actually make it all that miles better. I do not expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it's not there, I do not make attempts to convince them...I just end up leaving.

Finding the balance has been stupendously hard on my heart lately. But in all truth, I know what I have to do. I need to walk away. I must respect myself enough, the sort of person I am and not settle for something less than I know what I truly deserve. You must know what you are worth. If you don't think that you are worth it, you may accept anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.




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